Episode 30
#30 Change your habits, change your life | Angelica Alen
I'm back with the wonderful Angelica Alen, Stage 3 Cancer survivor and Life Coach, to talk about habits and how they can change our lives. Angelica has some really fantastic advice on habit forming, how to make them work for us and making them stick.
Angelica Alen is a health and life coach, a stage 3 Bowel cancer survivor & thriver.
Angelica is passionate about empowering you to take charge of your habits so you can create a healthier, happier and more fulfilled version of you
To connect with Angelica
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Key Moments:
- 00:00:00 - Coming up
- 00:01:35 - Introduction
- 00:04:28 - Juggling health with a busy life
- 00:09:50 - To push or respect? Finding your balance
- 00:15:05 - How to start a habit
- 00:22:15 - Habits and resistance
- 00:25:18 - The power of routine
- 00:31:40 - Staying motivated and building more habits
- 00:39:17 - Keeping on track and emotional habits
- 00:48:00 - Family reactions to Angelica’s change
- 00:54:04 - Appreciating the basics
- 01:02:05 - Old habits and FOMO
- 01:10:14 - Final tips
Key Takeaways:
- Try to incorporate health into your daily life, rather than see it as ‘other’. In a listener-asked example, rather than having to choose between cooking a healthy meal and spending time with your child, why not cook with them, or have them nearby while you cook.
- It can be so beneficial to redirect your energy away from worrying about things, to just getting them done!
- Find your balance between pushing yourself to do better and knowing when to stop. If we always hold off because we don’t “feel like it”, we may never start something amazing and beneficial!
- When trying to form habits, start small and work your way up slowly. If you try to do too much too fast, your habit likely won’t stick in the long term.
- It’s okay to find your own way of doing things. If you don’t enjoy walking, find an alternative that you do like!
- It’s important to really evaluate your motivations - cosmetics alone are usually not enough. Think of all the additional benefits.
- Endless scrolling social media can be a huge block in forming positive habits.
- It’s your responsibility to take control of your own health and wellbeing.
- There’s no better time to start than right now! It’s ok to just start with what you have, it’s not a race.
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Transcript
I don't know anyone where
Speaker:everything's perfect in our lives if
Speaker:we're all honest there's all areas
Speaker:where we do want to change.
Speaker:I've had to really take a good
Speaker:look at myself and see how much
Speaker:energy I've wasted over the years
Speaker:worrying about things.
Speaker:What am I going to do tomorrow when
Speaker:that inner voice that has always
Speaker:been there...
Speaker:Belittling me and putting
Speaker:me down and never encouraging
Speaker:me. What am I going to answer
Speaker:to that voice? Because that voice is
Speaker:not going to go away.
Speaker:And that's not because you you're
Speaker:crazy.
Speaker:Everybody has got that little voice.
Speaker:Yeah, I think yeah,
Speaker:I think you said so many times in
Speaker:this interview and I'm so grateful
Speaker:that you have, that this is not
Speaker:about beating yourself up.
Speaker:It's not about judging yourself.
Speaker:There's a huge difference
Speaker:between
Speaker:understanding
Speaker:where you're at and criticising
Speaker:yourself.
Speaker:I think there are two things that we
Speaker:should start our morning with
Speaker:that is a must.
Speaker:That doesn't mean that they need to
Speaker:go to boot camp, you know,
Speaker:but that doesn't mean that they need
Speaker:to become plant based overnight.
Speaker:What it is meditation?
Speaker:Do I have to become a monk like, you
Speaker:know, in the cave and humming?
Speaker:No, that
Speaker:is a killer of any
Speaker:any physical, mental and emotional
Speaker:health chance of you
Speaker:feeling in control of your life.
Speaker:You know, people that succeed, they
Speaker:have a plan. They don't don't just
Speaker:go with the flow.
Speaker:Hello. My name's Catherine Edwards,
Speaker:host of the Live Love Learn podcast.
Speaker:For people that are listening to
Speaker:this on a podcast platform
Speaker:rather than on my YouTube.
Speaker:Now, I am absolutely delighted
Speaker:to have back a guest that I've had
Speaker:on my channel before.
Speaker:Angelica Alen and Angelica
Speaker:Alen is a health and life coach,
Speaker:and we did a first interview that I
Speaker:really encourage everyone to listen
Speaker:to, which was about "the
Speaker:mindset that changed my life".
Speaker:And Angelica explains the journey
Speaker:that's got her to where
Speaker:she is today.
Speaker:But today we are going to be
Speaker:speaking about something that is
Speaker:absolutely fundamental to
Speaker:every single one of us watching,
Speaker:because when we start having
Speaker:a better grasp of this,
Speaker:everything in our life changes.
Speaker:And what we're going to be talking
Speaker:about today is habits,
Speaker:everything to do with habits, how
Speaker:we can recognise when our current
Speaker:ones are no longer serving us, and
Speaker:most importantly, how we can
Speaker:create new habits which
Speaker:are going to serve us physically,
Speaker:emotionally, mentally, spiritually
Speaker:to create the life that we want.
Speaker:So Angelica, first and foremost,
Speaker:thank you so much for coming back
Speaker:today.
Speaker:How are you doing?
Speaker:Thank you so much, Catherine, for
Speaker:having me. It's just a pleasure.
Speaker:It's so great to reconnect.
Speaker:Our first episode, like you said, I
Speaker:really encourage people to listen to
Speaker:it. It was amazing.
Speaker:And today we're going to be
Speaker:answering a few questions from that
Speaker:episode as well, which I think it's
Speaker:great that people are participating,
Speaker:wanting to make some
Speaker:changes to improve their life as
Speaker:well. And I think the initiative
Speaker:that you're doing here and it's
Speaker:incredible, so, so amazing.
Speaker:You know, we need more people like
Speaker:you doing this kind of work.
Speaker:I think living consciously, such an
Speaker:important part of
Speaker:our lives, if we want to create
Speaker:this beautiful, happy and fulfilled
Speaker:life that we are in this lifetime
Speaker:to live for. So thank you so much
Speaker:for having me here.
Speaker:It's absolutely a pleasure.
Speaker:And I really love the fact that
Speaker:so many of our listeners asked
Speaker:questions below our last
Speaker:video.
Speaker:So for those of you watching this on
Speaker:YouTube, please do ask questions
Speaker:in the comments. And Angelica and I
Speaker:can come back and cover those next
Speaker:time. And for those of you listening
Speaker:on to a podcast platform
Speaker:all my contact details to email
Speaker:any questions through are below.
Speaker:Now, before we really launch into
Speaker:it, we are having a few Internet
Speaker:issues because Angelica is in the
Speaker:middle of a move.
Speaker:So if we freeze a bit, just bear
Speaker:with us. It's worth sticking through
Speaker:because there's so much information.
Speaker:Let's start Angelica with
Speaker:some of the questions we had last
Speaker:time, if that's okay.
Speaker:I've written a few of them down and
Speaker:you can- if
Speaker:I've missed any, let me know.
Speaker:But the reason I think we should
Speaker:start with these is they lead really
Speaker:nicely. They link in to what we're
Speaker:going to be talking about today,
Speaker:many of them anyway.
Speaker:So we have one really good question
Speaker:where I'm not mentioning people's
Speaker:names, just because I didn't
Speaker:ask them if they're happy to have
Speaker:that them read.
Speaker:But this was a really good question.
Speaker:I have a full time job and a
Speaker:daughter.
Speaker:All of this super healthy living is
Speaker:very good and well, but how do
Speaker:we fit in time for it?
Speaker:Seriously, the other day to make
Speaker:healthy food, I had to choose
Speaker:between seeing my daughter and
Speaker:making us a nice meal.
Speaker:I'd really appreciate an episode
Speaker:on fitting all this into a day/week
Speaker:schedule.
Speaker:Bulk cooking is a good idea, but
Speaker:this is great frozen?
Speaker:Sometimes hearing about all the
Speaker:health supplements and what I'm
Speaker:doing wrong actually adds stress
Speaker:onto to a life where I struggle
Speaker:to fit things in.
Speaker:I think a lot of people can
Speaker:empathise with that.
Speaker:Angelica.
Speaker:Yeah, definitely.
Speaker:And I think that's real.
Speaker:Everybody's busy, right?
Speaker:Like, I, you know, so
Speaker:for the people that don't know about
Speaker:my story that I shared in the
Speaker:last episode, I am a stage three
Speaker:cancer survivor.
Speaker:I then I started my healing journey
Speaker:during chemotherapy.
Speaker:So for me was somehow kind
Speaker:of a gradual increase in
Speaker:to, you know, I have
Speaker:new habits that I had to retain in
Speaker:a busy life because during chemo I
Speaker:was at home.
Speaker:But then once I started getting
Speaker:back to normal life and I needed to
Speaker:go to work and be at work and
Speaker:and do things and do normal things
Speaker:in life and life got busy.
Speaker:I had to fit everything that I
Speaker:did within my
Speaker:whole life again.
Speaker:Right. And I think that
Speaker:one thing that it's very,
Speaker:very easy to do
Speaker:is that...
Speaker:To think that health is
Speaker:put aside.
Speaker:Like so the question
Speaker:that we're talking about, you know,
Speaker:how do I fit in?
Speaker:Oh, like, how can I...
Speaker:Should I spend time with my daughter
Speaker:or cook a healthy meal?
Speaker:Why can't we just do both together?
Speaker:You know, take this
Speaker:journey with me, right?
Speaker:That's what I said!
Speaker:And, you know,
Speaker:I.
Speaker:You know, and I'm not saying that
Speaker:they cook for me every day, but
Speaker:my kids, they want to
Speaker:know, what are we having for dinner?
Speaker:They cherish, like sitting
Speaker:down together and having a good
Speaker:meal together.
Speaker:You know, they want to participate
Speaker:on the choices that we going to
Speaker:have, you know, every day
Speaker:because they know how important it
Speaker:is to eat healthily.
Speaker:So if even if they're kind of,
Speaker:you know, going around the house and
Speaker:not knowing what to do because I
Speaker:don't want them to be on devices and
Speaker:things like that, I'll say to them
Speaker:ok you can come and help me, or you
Speaker:can go and read a book next to me,
Speaker:or you can draw like my daughter
Speaker:likes drawing next to me.
Speaker:So it's kind of because I think it
Speaker:depends on the age as well.
Speaker:I think when they are little, they
Speaker:just want to be close to you.
Speaker:They just want to be with you, you
Speaker:know? And if you kind of listen to
Speaker:some music together and they are
Speaker:doing that just by being close,
Speaker:you know, physically, you know, they
Speaker:are happy because they have you
Speaker:there and you can be talking about
Speaker:your day to day or you know, what is
Speaker:happening at school and things like
Speaker:that. So it's not a choice of
Speaker:no, should I do this or that.
Speaker:It's just how you can incorporate
Speaker:and make it fun, you know, if
Speaker:it becomes a chore, nobody
Speaker:wants to do it right, to
Speaker:start making the habit
Speaker:of making health as
Speaker:your priority.
Speaker:You fit in.
Speaker:You don't just leave it out and it
Speaker:doesn't become a chore.
Speaker:You know, and I think that, you
Speaker:know, and we're going to talk a little
Speaker:bit further after we answer a few
Speaker:more questions, how we do that, how
Speaker:we create that, you know, that is
Speaker:kind of in a sustainable way for the
Speaker:long term, which is I think it's the
Speaker:most important thing.
Speaker:You know, like how can we it is not
Speaker:like a diet plan
Speaker:for ten weeks, for 12 weeks.
Speaker:It's how do you do that as
Speaker:part of our life.
Speaker:And, you know, and don't forget the
Speaker:benefits of,
Speaker:like showing your kids modelling
Speaker:to your kids, how important
Speaker:the importance that you give to
Speaker:health. Right. Like my kids,
Speaker:I am like guarantee
Speaker:100% in
Speaker:my journey wasn't about just changes
Speaker:in me.
Speaker:My physical, mental and emotional
Speaker:health. It was about how can
Speaker:I teach them?
Speaker:How can a model for them
Speaker:to always put themselves
Speaker:first, to always put their health
Speaker:first so they never have to go
Speaker:through what I went through?
Speaker:So I think that's kind of how we
Speaker:change again, our mindset
Speaker:behind the little bits that
Speaker:get us stuck.
Speaker:I love it. And it's exactly what I
Speaker:do. Our children do, what we do,
Speaker:not what we say.
Speaker:So if we're saying that
Speaker:we're putting healthy eating as a
Speaker:priority and not spending time doing
Speaker:with that. But children love
Speaker:gardening. I mean, my children...
Speaker:I get a lot about- because I've
Speaker:got so many animals and everyone
Speaker:always sees it as a chore.
Speaker:And I'm not no, it's not a chore.
Speaker:It's a benefit.
Speaker:It gets me out in nature every day.
Speaker:It builds my microbiome, it keeps me
Speaker:moving, it keeps me fit.
Speaker:My children have grown up doing that
Speaker:every day.
Speaker:And what an amazing way to start
Speaker:your morning.
Speaker:So we spend a lot of energy.
Speaker:Don't we on thoughts and we're going
Speaker:to come on to this with the habits.
Speaker:It's really important.
Speaker:We're spending a lot of energy
Speaker:worrying and I am a natural worrier.
Speaker:My natural personality.
Speaker:I've had to really
Speaker:take a good look at myself and see
Speaker:how much energy I've wasted
Speaker:over the years worrying about
Speaker:things. Yeah, we're hopefully
Speaker:going to start off today and come
Speaker:back and do more of is how we
Speaker:can convert that energy into
Speaker:something more positive.
Speaker:So it was a really lovely question.
Speaker:Thank you so much.
Speaker:The next one I've got is equally
Speaker:good.
Speaker:And so she really...
Speaker:She was "diagnosed with breast
Speaker:cancer stage three in November
Speaker:and feel very strongly that with the
Speaker:right mindset, I will absolutely
Speaker:survive this.
Speaker:I'm halfway through my second round
Speaker:of chemo of 12 weeks
Speaker:and I meditate and flow with
Speaker:the situation.
Speaker:No fighting.
Speaker:My question is I know I have
Speaker:to exercise more, but because of the
Speaker:chemo, I'm just too tired.
Speaker:I go out for walks every day as long
Speaker:as I can or go for a bicycle ride.
Speaker:But still my muscles have become
Speaker:very weak.
Speaker:I just feel to
Speaker:just let my body have all the rest
Speaker:it needs right now.
Speaker:And then in six weeks, when I finish
Speaker:the chemo, start with the gym.
Speaker:I would like to know if following
Speaker:the needs of my body now is a smart
Speaker:thing to do, or should I force
Speaker:myself to do more exercise?"
Speaker:I think that is a great question.
Speaker:That is a very, very powerful
Speaker:question.
Speaker:So during chemotherapy, somebody
Speaker:sent me a video of a lady
Speaker:who was battling stage four cancer.
Speaker:Bowel cancer at the time,
Speaker:and she had beat
Speaker:the stage, fought four cancer, I
Speaker:had stage three B, with exercise.
Speaker:As soon as I saw that, I
Speaker:was like, that's it. I need to make
Speaker:exercise as a priority.
Speaker:Now for this person who
Speaker:asked that question.
Speaker:I was sick 24/7.
Speaker:You know, if you ever felt morning
Speaker:sickness. I felt like this
Speaker:24/7. I didn't...
Speaker:I had probably a minute of relief
Speaker:just after I ate and that was it.
Speaker:Nothing else.
Speaker:So I was sick.
Speaker:I was tired.
Speaker:The first session, I spent five
Speaker:days in bed, you know, like it
Speaker:was. It was rough.
Speaker:It was not easy at all.
Speaker:But there is science
Speaker:backing up exercise during cancer
Speaker:treatment now that it's you
Speaker:can't deny the
Speaker:benefits of exercising during
Speaker:chemo anymore.
Speaker:Oncologist should be actually
Speaker:encouraging it.
Speaker:You know, this was five years for
Speaker:me. And oncologists should be
Speaker:encouraging people to doing that
Speaker:because now it's a fact.
Speaker:It's real, it's a science backing
Speaker:this up. So that's the first,
Speaker:right?
Speaker:The second, I do
Speaker:understand that the body
Speaker:needs a lot of rest.
Speaker:So it's not again, it's not there.
Speaker:Should I do this or should I do
Speaker:that? You need to do both.
Speaker:So...
Speaker:And both are going to be equally
Speaker:important. And how do you go about
Speaker:it is that you
Speaker:need to learn and connect
Speaker:your body to process what it is.
Speaker:The balance that I push my body
Speaker:and I respect my body.
Speaker:And it's a very fine line that
Speaker:nobody can tell you apart from
Speaker:yourself.
Speaker:But there is no growth if you don't
Speaker:push your body, right?
Speaker:If you don't push your body, is
Speaker:this six weeks?
Speaker:You know, for me was seven and a
Speaker:half months. If I hadn't done any
Speaker:exercise, my body would have gone
Speaker:like that.
Speaker:But my body didn't because I was
Speaker:able to finish chemo feeling
Speaker:stronger than I started and I had 12
Speaker:sessions.
Speaker:If I hadn't done any exercise,
Speaker:all my muscles, everything
Speaker:would have declined a lot.
Speaker:Yeah, but I wasn't in that position.
Speaker:I didn't have cancer fatigue.
Speaker:I didn't have anything because
Speaker:I exercise daily.
Speaker:Now, again, how do you go about
Speaker:that? It's a habit.
Speaker:I started with 5 minutes
Speaker:in a walk around the block, 5
Speaker:minutes yoga when I couldn't even
Speaker:get out of the house, 5
Speaker:minutes on my bike that I put on a
Speaker:wheel trainer.
Speaker:And then from five you go to six,
Speaker:you go to seven, you go to eight.
Speaker:But let me tell you, you're not
Speaker:going to feel like it.
Speaker:Hmm.
Speaker:You are not going to feel like it.
Speaker:But, you know, you have to make a
Speaker:decision.
Speaker:You know, if I used to ask myself
Speaker:every single morning, do
Speaker:I want to live or die?
Speaker:I didn't have any other options.
Speaker:Staying bed wasn't an option
Speaker:for me.
Speaker:Yeah. You know, I really strongly
Speaker:believe that.
Speaker:You know, like, especially in
Speaker:the cancer journey, there is lots of
Speaker:moving parts, not
Speaker:doing one thing.
Speaker:It's going to be the solution
Speaker:for the problem it's doing a lot
Speaker:of different things.
Speaker:And exercise is a massive
Speaker:important part.
Speaker:So is really playing around.
Speaker:Sometimes I would just go for
Speaker:it and I would be sweating
Speaker:so much that my PICC line, I
Speaker:had a PICC line on my arm would
Speaker:just get like irritated,
Speaker:you know, and would be like, Oh, you
Speaker:know, the oncologist would be like,
Speaker:Oh, maybe you should stop
Speaker:exercising.
Speaker:I'm like, No,
Speaker:I'm not stopping exercise.
Speaker:So it is really a fine
Speaker:line that only you can
Speaker:connect your body each time and feel
Speaker:in your self.
Speaker:You know, today, how much can I push
Speaker:my body and how much can I
Speaker:respect my body?
Speaker:And that just creates such
Speaker:a beautiful connection with your
Speaker:body. You know that I still have
Speaker:to the I know when I am
Speaker:tired and I need to get to bed early
Speaker:and I know what
Speaker:I need to do to push myself in an
Speaker:exercise session, in a yoga
Speaker:session, if I want,
Speaker:I know exactly what my body needs
Speaker:because I created that connection
Speaker:with my body.
Speaker:Love it. I think that's such good
Speaker:advice.
Speaker:So I hope that helps.
Speaker:Thank you. We're looking forward to
Speaker:more questions under this.
Speaker:Now, the next question that I had
Speaker:leads really nicely into
Speaker:about how do we form habits
Speaker:and what habits should we be looking
Speaker:at that are no longer serving us?
Speaker:So this chap was asking
Speaker:about, you know, I want to find out
Speaker:more about what you guys do with
Speaker:to stay healthy, food
Speaker:and water, what supplements both
Speaker:lifestyle and for me, Angelica.
Speaker:These are all the things we're
Speaker:looking at when we're talking about
Speaker:what habits are going to serve us
Speaker:that we need to be incorporating.
Speaker:Because no animal and nature,
Speaker:not a single animal in nature
Speaker:isn't doing what you were saying
Speaker:then and balancing lots of things.
Speaker:I don't think i've got shelter, so
Speaker:I don't need to eat.
Speaker:It's
Speaker:this balancing act the whole time
Speaker:when we embrace the fact
Speaker:that we can make different choices
Speaker:around our shelter, our
Speaker:food, our water, our thoughts,
Speaker:our company, etc..
Speaker:So let's dive into the habits now
Speaker:and sort of say when we're talking
Speaker:about habits.
Speaker:Where do people start?
Speaker:How do they, first of all realise,
Speaker:you know what? I've got to make a
Speaker:change. What I'm doing at the
Speaker:moment, they might not label it as
Speaker:habits, but that their daily life
Speaker:isn't suiting them.
Speaker:What is the starting point?
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:So I think making a decision,
Speaker:it's the first thing like saying,
Speaker:no, I need to change something in my
Speaker:life. I need to know having the
Speaker:intention behind that.
Speaker:I really am ready to change.
Speaker:You know, I am. I'm all in now.
Speaker:That doesn't mean that they need to
Speaker:go to a 45 minutes
Speaker:session at the gym, and I think
Speaker:that's where the problem is.
Speaker:That doesn't mean that they need to
Speaker:go to boot camp.
Speaker:You know that that doesn't mean that
Speaker:they need to become plant based
Speaker:overnight.
Speaker:So for me, you know, and I
Speaker:really guide my clients through
Speaker:small changes and that,
Speaker:you know, if people are listening to
Speaker:that and they are in that place of
Speaker:like, I need to do something, I
Speaker:think there are two things that we
Speaker:should start our morning with
Speaker:that it's a must.
Speaker:We need to exercise our body and we
Speaker:need to exercise our minds
Speaker:the way that we exercise our bodies.
Speaker:It could look like a 5
Speaker:minutes walk on the spot while
Speaker:you listen to three songs.
Speaker:If somebody hasn't exercise for
Speaker:a long time, if somebody
Speaker:is overweight and they have a lot
Speaker:of weight to lose and they're
Speaker:putting a lot of weight on their
Speaker:joints, you don't want to do
Speaker:anything drastic.
Speaker:They could be in a five minute
Speaker:yoga session. They go on YouTube.
Speaker:There's plenty of amazing features
Speaker:there. You just choose 5
Speaker:minutes.
Speaker:And you start doing that every
Speaker:single morning.
Speaker:And the 5 minutes exercise of the
Speaker:mind is a 5 minutes meditation.
Speaker:Now, don't call it meditation
Speaker:because there's so much pressure
Speaker:with that, right?
Speaker:What it is meditation.
Speaker:Do I have to become a monk?
Speaker:Like, you know, in the cave and
Speaker:humming? No. It's just
Speaker:5 minutes that you do nothing.
Speaker:That it could be a game with
Speaker:an app like I've used at the
Speaker:beginning headspace, which I really
Speaker:like, just to guide
Speaker:you through it, you know, just to
Speaker:really kind of go, okay, you know,
Speaker:now take some deep breath.
Speaker:Now, does that mean that you're
Speaker:going to sit there and you're not
Speaker:going to have any thoughts, any
Speaker:worries, anything coming up?
Speaker:Oh, yes. You're going to have that.
Speaker:Don't worry about it.
Speaker:The most important thing is to
Speaker:show up for yourself every single
Speaker:day.
Speaker:That is the most important.
Speaker:Does that mean that with the 5
Speaker:minutes walk, you're going to become
Speaker:an Olympian overnight?
Speaker:No, but but
Speaker:I can guarantee you that the 5
Speaker:minutes that you
Speaker:walk on the spot is going to start
Speaker:to make you stronger, is
Speaker:going to start to make you mentally
Speaker:happier, is going to
Speaker:start to make you
Speaker:feel happier about yourself
Speaker:because you know that you are doing
Speaker:something for you.
Speaker:And you know that the endorphins
Speaker:will be going you going to start the
Speaker:day in a different way.
Speaker:You're going to start tackling
Speaker:things in a different way.
Speaker:So everything starts compounding.
Speaker:Now, I would suggest that people
Speaker:stay on this for at least two weeks.
Speaker:Don't start adding anything to
Speaker:it, because that's a way
Speaker:again,
Speaker:everything goes pear shaped.
Speaker:Oh, but I know what I need now to
Speaker:change everything.
Speaker:You know my diet. I
Speaker:need to go from 5
Speaker:minutes. 5 minutes is not doing
Speaker:anything I need to do half an
Speaker:hour. No.
Speaker:It is not like
Speaker:a race.
Speaker:It is a life change.
Speaker:It is changing a mindset.
Speaker:Even if I did this for the rest of
Speaker:my life, that's what I'm doing.
Speaker:So when I go back to my myself
Speaker:during chemo, that's what I thought.
Speaker:What can I do for the rest of
Speaker:my life that I'm doing
Speaker:now that I can keep doing?
Speaker:And let's face it, walking.
Speaker:Walking is something that most can
Speaker:do.
Speaker:It has incredible benefits.
Speaker:You don't have to go to the gym.
Speaker:You know. And when I say walk on the
Speaker:spot is that I have lots of clients
Speaker:that live in Canada and America is
Speaker:really cold in England.
Speaker:So again, if you're walking on spot,
Speaker:you have no excuses.
Speaker:I used to exercise on my pyjamas
Speaker:and sometimes I still do.
Speaker:You just you get out of bed,
Speaker:you stand up and
Speaker:you just walk on the spot.
Speaker:There is no excuse for not
Speaker:doing it.
Speaker:And I think another important thing
Speaker:is thinking, okay, so I need an
Speaker:extra 15 minutes in the morning,
Speaker:5 minutes to walk on spot, 5
Speaker:minutes to do a meditation, you
Speaker:know, another 5 minutes to give or
Speaker:take.
Speaker:So going to bed 15
Speaker:minutes earlier.
Speaker:So you don't compromise on your
Speaker:sleep.
Speaker:What are most people doing an hour
Speaker:before they go to bed?
Speaker:They are on social media.
Speaker:They are watching crap TV.
Speaker:They are drinking alcohol and eating
Speaker:crap food.
Speaker:You know, snacks and things or
Speaker:chocolate or whatever, you know?
Speaker:Nothing is benefiting it.
Speaker:So just go
Speaker:to bed 15 minutes earlier.
Speaker:So you don't have to.
Speaker:It is not like you're missing out on
Speaker:anything, is it?
Speaker:It's not anything like it's
Speaker:not, you know,
Speaker:it's really not like we're missing
Speaker:out. So just again, he's
Speaker:in about that fine
Speaker:balance respecting your self.
Speaker:I'm going to go to bed earlier
Speaker:because tomorrow I want to wake up
Speaker:early and I don't want to compromise
Speaker:on my sleep and I want to choose me.
Speaker:First thing in the morning.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:So if I had to add to
Speaker:that. One more thing is do
Speaker:not look at your mobile phone
Speaker:first thing in the morning.
Speaker:That is a killer of any
Speaker:any physical, mental and emotional
Speaker:health chance of you
Speaker:feeling in control of your life.
Speaker:You know, I don't turn my phone on
Speaker:until I have done all my morning
Speaker:routines. I finish my breakfast
Speaker:and sometimes until I drop my kids
Speaker:off at school and then I'll turn my
Speaker:phone on. Unless
Speaker:somebody is about to die in your
Speaker:family or something, you know, that
Speaker:is something that you know that you
Speaker:need to attend to.
Speaker:There is no need for you to do that.
Speaker:It's very, very true.
Speaker:And I think, you know, if anyone's
Speaker:listening to this and they feel
Speaker:resistance coming up.
Speaker:I really want to cover that before
Speaker:we move on, because the resistance
Speaker:is there to tell you something.
Speaker:It's to show you that
Speaker:there's a habit there that is no
Speaker:longer serving you.
Speaker:And when we're honest with
Speaker:ourselves, you know, none of
Speaker:us would be thinking about changing
Speaker:our habits if everything was perfect
Speaker:in our life.
Speaker:I don't know anyone where
Speaker:everything's perfect in our lives if
Speaker:we're all honest there's all areas
Speaker:where we do want to change.
Speaker:I think often the decision
Speaker:is how bad are we going to let
Speaker:it go before we make
Speaker:that change?
Speaker:And realising that there's a choice.
Speaker:You know, if you've got that little
Speaker:voice in your head or that little
Speaker:feeling in your heart that
Speaker:I'm talking myself out, when you
Speaker:find yourself trying to convince
Speaker:yourself that what you're doing is
Speaker:okay, I would see
Speaker:those as red warning flags.
Speaker:What about you, Angelica?
Speaker:I think there is this idea
Speaker:that this inner voice is just going
Speaker:to go away, like gone away,
Speaker:Right. You're going to wake up on
Speaker:Monday morning, 1st of
Speaker:January, and that voice is not going
Speaker:to be there anymore.
Speaker:So understanding that
Speaker:that voice is going to be there is
Speaker:a really important part of the
Speaker:process.
Speaker:You need to have an answer to that
Speaker:voice, because that voice is going
Speaker:to tell you 5 minutes is
Speaker:not going to do anything.
Speaker:Why are you doing that again?
Speaker:You've never done anything for too
Speaker:long. It is just a waste of time.
Speaker:Why are you meditating?
Speaker:This is useless.
Speaker:That is just
Speaker:absolutely...
Speaker:Like the real truth of what
Speaker:everybody is going to go through.
Speaker:But making the decision
Speaker:to take
Speaker:control of their
Speaker:voice. That voice is not the truth.
Speaker:It is simply
Speaker:a way of the ego trying to protect
Speaker:you, to keep you safe
Speaker:in whatever you are doing because
Speaker:it's comfortable by nature.
Speaker:We choose that comfort.
Speaker:But that does not mean that it's
Speaker:true.
Speaker:So another trick to
Speaker:the habit is before you go
Speaker:to bed, you rehearse
Speaker:what's going to happen?
Speaker:You wake up and that little friend
Speaker:is going to be there.
Speaker:Why are you doing that?
Speaker:This is useless. It's not going to
Speaker:do anything for you.
Speaker:Don't get up.
Speaker:It's too dark.
Speaker:It's too cold.
Speaker:So you just tell that
Speaker:the voice gently "I know
Speaker:what you're talking about, but I'm
Speaker:going to do it anyway".
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:That's the plan.
Speaker:You know, people that succeed, they
Speaker:have a plan. They don't don't just
Speaker:go with the flow.
Speaker:You know, this is... you need to
Speaker:have a plan in your mind, what am I
Speaker:going to do tomorrow when that inner
Speaker:voice that has always been there?
Speaker:Belittling me and putting
Speaker:me down and never encouraging
Speaker:me. What am I going to answer
Speaker:to that voice? Because that voice is
Speaker:not going to go away.
Speaker:And that's not because you're crazy.
Speaker:Everybody has got that little voice.
Speaker:So it's managing that.
Speaker:Yeah, I think it's really,
Speaker:really good advice for people
Speaker:because, you know, preparation
Speaker:is so key to success.
Speaker:When you can anticipate
Speaker:these things that you're going to
Speaker:face, you can...
Speaker:I have a laugh about it.
Speaker:You know, I have a laugh with the
Speaker:conversations I have with my inner
Speaker:voice. I find it quite amusing.
Speaker:And when you can recognise that
Speaker:and separate that from you, you
Speaker:know, there's so much, this is so
Speaker:deep, everyone, we can go into
Speaker:different areas. Oh here comes Coco.
Speaker:I hope she's not gonna pull my
Speaker:internet out.
Speaker:She comes on my desk and then pulls
Speaker:all the internet out.
Speaker:But I think being prepared...
Speaker:Now, there's so much to show
Speaker:that your morning routine and your
Speaker:bedtime routine are
Speaker:absolutely key to making any changes
Speaker:in your life.
Speaker:Shall we have... We've already
Speaker:spoken a little bit about that, but
Speaker:there's books like The Miracle
Speaker:Morning, which I absolutely love.
Speaker:Now. It's pretty full on, but
Speaker:actually you can implement little
Speaker:bits of it, but understanding
Speaker:how you start your day
Speaker:and how you end your day are
Speaker:really crucial.
Speaker:What have you learned about that,
Speaker:Angelica?
Speaker:Yeah. So that's why I really think
Speaker:that starting with and
Speaker:the exercising of your body and
Speaker:exercising of your mind, it's a
Speaker:must. The Miracle Morning is a
Speaker:beautiful book, but
Speaker:you know, when people read that,
Speaker:I've read that book, it's like, how
Speaker:am I going to fit all
Speaker:of this?
Speaker:You know, in my morning routine
Speaker:since I have been exhausted,
Speaker:I can't wake up an hour and a half
Speaker:before I need to get out of the
Speaker:house or whatever.
Speaker:So I think that's a little
Speaker:overwhelming.
Speaker:I agree.
Speaker:So I think that if you start
Speaker:with your.
Speaker:If you start with your body
Speaker:and your mind.
Speaker:And the reason why I start with the
Speaker:body and the mind is because
Speaker:we live in our bodies,
Speaker:even though we can control
Speaker:our thoughts.
Speaker:If our bodies, you know,
Speaker:is in shambles like mine was, like
Speaker:everything is out of whack
Speaker:and you were exhausted.
Speaker:And you, you know, you don't know if
Speaker:you're coming or going.
Speaker:It's very hard for you to focus on
Speaker:anything because you are literally
Speaker:on survival mode.
Speaker:You're getting out of bed exhausted.
Speaker:You're going to work exhausted.
Speaker:You would just literally surviving.
Speaker:So if you don't attend to your body
Speaker:first thing in the morning.
Speaker:And so, like I said, it can go so
Speaker:deep into that.
Speaker:You know, you're saying
Speaker:to yourself.
Speaker:You are a priority.
Speaker:I love you.
Speaker:You are first.
Speaker:It doesn't matter what happens
Speaker:after. I am putting you first.
Speaker:This is the kind of connection I
Speaker:have with my body because I started
Speaker:doing 5 minutes.
Speaker:Exercising my body 5 minutes,
Speaker:exercising my mind.
Speaker:Now, why is it so important to
Speaker:exercise your mind?
Speaker:Because everybody's got this
Speaker:inner crazy voices
Speaker:loose monkey inside of their heads
Speaker:that are just running wild.
Speaker:And that 5 minutes of
Speaker:quiet time, no devices,
Speaker:no flashing things, no
Speaker:notifications, nothing.
Speaker:You start it, you start
Speaker:understanding their voice.
Speaker:Like you're saying to the point that
Speaker:one day you can actually laugh about
Speaker:it. But most people
Speaker:are not.
Speaker:They don't even understand
Speaker:that their voice is controlling
Speaker:them.
Speaker:24/7 and that's dictating
Speaker:everything that they do.
Speaker:24/7 because they have
Speaker:zero control of what's going on in
Speaker:their heads, because they don't they
Speaker:don't stop.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Now, I had a client who
Speaker:was a very successful
Speaker:high achiever
Speaker:and was married, happy with kids,
Speaker:eat healthily.
Speaker:Her health was under control
Speaker:physically.
Speaker:But she said, I'm not happy.
Speaker:I'm just not happy.
Speaker:And everybody tells me to meditate
Speaker:and, you know, I haven't got time.
Speaker:This is ridiculous.
Speaker:The thing is with meditation is that
Speaker:you need to with with yourself.
Speaker:And that's scary.
Speaker:And that can be quite scary and
Speaker:daunting because if you are like me
Speaker:before cancer, I had never
Speaker:sat with myself, I didn't even know
Speaker:who I was.
Speaker:I'm like, Who is this person?
Speaker:Who is this body?
Speaker:What is this voice?
Speaker:What is going on?
Speaker:How did I even get here?
Speaker:And of course, as soon as you start
Speaker:going down there, you can either
Speaker:let the resistance control
Speaker:you and you stop doing
Speaker:it altogether,
Speaker:or you can embrace this journey
Speaker:and think you know what.
Speaker:Yeah, I have... There's so many
Speaker:things that I want to change.
Speaker:I have been doing so many things
Speaker:that are not really benefiting me.
Speaker:You know, I'm just going down the
Speaker:wrong path here.
Speaker:You know, I
Speaker:felt that it was almost like I
Speaker:needed to learn how to walk
Speaker:again. I need to learn how to talk
Speaker:again because everything that I've
Speaker:been doing is wrong.
Speaker:So be prepared to sit with that.
Speaker:It can be challenging.
Speaker:But I would always say to people,
Speaker:don't underestimate the power
Speaker:of 5 minutes.
Speaker:A different a different habit.
Speaker:Because I am here today.
Speaker:Because I was prepared.
Speaker:To sit there for the 5 minutes to
Speaker:exercise, for the 5 minutes to do my
Speaker:yoga practice for 5 minutes.
Speaker:And some days I would think to
Speaker:myself, this is not doing anything.
Speaker:Nothing is doing anything.
Speaker:I'm not getting any better.
Speaker:I had many setbacks.
Speaker:I would go in to have my
Speaker:my chemotherapy treatment and they
Speaker:would be saying to me, your bloods
Speaker:are not good enough.
Speaker:You've got low platelets, you've got
Speaker:a low white cell.
Speaker:You know this is happening.
Speaker:That's happening.
Speaker:And, you know, and I was already
Speaker:changing.
Speaker:But the thing is, like, it takes
Speaker:time for the body to create
Speaker:the disease.
Speaker:Takes time.
Speaker:It takes time for the body to create
Speaker:harmony again and
Speaker:and to reregulate again
Speaker:to find a new normal again.
Speaker:Patience and persistence.
Speaker:And it is really, really important.
Speaker:Yeah, I think that's just
Speaker:absolutely key.
Speaker:In terms of, um,
Speaker:when people are...
Speaker:If you're starting working with
Speaker:clients and you're starting to get
Speaker:them to sort of self-assess.
Speaker:So we've got the starting point, the
Speaker:morning starting point, mind
Speaker:and body, start small.
Speaker:I 100% agree with that.
Speaker:So if people are listening to this
Speaker:and they're thinking, right, but
Speaker:there's so much about my life that
Speaker:I want to change, we know
Speaker:we're going to start small, but
Speaker:how do you keep
Speaker:the motivation to sort of start
Speaker:then adding things on?
Speaker:So when do you start adding the next
Speaker:things on so that because positive
Speaker:feedback is a real encourager
Speaker:for people, isn't it, when they do
Speaker:start feeling different, when they
Speaker:do see that change,
Speaker:it can give you that next boost
Speaker:to keep going and know that you can
Speaker:achieve more.
Speaker:How do you cover that process with
Speaker:your clients?
Speaker:So there are a couple of options,
Speaker:like there is an option that we
Speaker:have Zoom sessions and we have
Speaker:I provide them a 1
Speaker:to 1 support via text
Speaker:in between sessions, which I
Speaker:really believe is very, very
Speaker:important in this process because
Speaker:life keeps happening.
Speaker:Yeah, and you probably have
Speaker:experienced that with your clients
Speaker:as well.
Speaker:And as soon something happens and
Speaker:it's a little bit out of the whack,
Speaker:you know, it's very easy for them to
Speaker:just like, that's it.
Speaker:Now all my routine is out of whack.
Speaker:I don't know what to do.
Speaker:And in actual fact, that's a really
Speaker:important part of the process
Speaker:to go, okay, that happened.
Speaker:That's good, That's great.
Speaker:So now you know, how are we going
Speaker:to keep growing, how
Speaker:we know we were going before the
Speaker:morning routine?
Speaker:And it might be that, you know,
Speaker:people are doing 15 minutes, but,
Speaker:you know, a couple of things
Speaker:happened so that they don't miss
Speaker:today altogether.
Speaker:But you do 5 minutes or you
Speaker:do your walk during lunchtime.
Speaker:So it's teaching people
Speaker:to think for themselves as
Speaker:well.
Speaker:You know, And sometimes, you know,
Speaker:as you probably have experienced,
Speaker:some people are quicker
Speaker:to grasp, you know,
Speaker:the whole idea of like, you know,
Speaker:I'm on a roll now, I really like
Speaker:it. You know, I want to change
Speaker:more one more.
Speaker:What should I do here?
Speaker:What should I do there?
Speaker:And some people, it takes a little
Speaker:longer. Again, there is no judgement
Speaker:here. We need to start
Speaker:with what we've got.
Speaker:You know, like there was no point in
Speaker:like if, if, you know, during my
Speaker:healing journey, if I was like,
Speaker:stage three bowel cancer, I keep
Speaker:thinking to myself, Oh my God, I
Speaker:know why, You know, like, why do I
Speaker:start here? And I'm so sick and poor
Speaker:me and I'm so sorry for myself.
Speaker:I mean, that doesn't help anybody.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:So, you know, So you go, okay, so
Speaker:this is what I've got.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:I think that leads really, really
Speaker:nicely into the next thing.
Speaker:So a lot of people will say, I can't
Speaker:because.
Speaker:And I think you are particularly
Speaker:good. I mean, anyone who's not on
Speaker:Angelica's newsletter list,
Speaker:please get on Angelica's newsletter
Speaker:list, the links are below,
Speaker:the amount of advice
Speaker:and really, really good advice
Speaker:and straight talking advice that you
Speaker:give out for free is absolutely
Speaker:phenomenal. And this is what I mean.
Speaker:There's people out there like
Speaker:Angelica that really, really
Speaker:want to help. We're all in this
Speaker:together. You know, we can we can
Speaker:all learn from each other and help
Speaker:support each other.
Speaker:But when people are...
Speaker:It's another habit, isn't
Speaker:it, that we go some
Speaker:people, more than others, will go
Speaker:straight into I can't
Speaker:because rather than I can.
Speaker:And with anyone who's got
Speaker:children, we know how to encourage
Speaker:and work through that.
Speaker:But often as adults they don't
Speaker:necessarily feel they've got that
Speaker:encouragement, which is why working
Speaker:with someone else to give you that
Speaker:encouragement is often key to
Speaker:success.
Speaker:But recognition that you're
Speaker:going into I can't poor
Speaker:me is the first step, would you say?
Speaker:The first step.
Speaker:I mean, I have had clients that is
Speaker:still by the time that they
Speaker:come to me, they are feeling very
Speaker:desperate because they have been
Speaker:to different health professionals.
Speaker:They haven't had the answer that
Speaker:they want.
Speaker:They have tried all the magic pills
Speaker:and all the quick fixes and nothing
Speaker:has has really helped
Speaker:them and they are ready to change.
Speaker:But in saying that there are clients
Speaker:that when things
Speaker:get hard, you know,
Speaker:there is a lot of resistance, you
Speaker:know, and I will.
Speaker:And I think it's important as a
Speaker:coach to
Speaker:to be honest with people.
Speaker:You know, when people say I can't
Speaker:because my first initial
Speaker:thought it will be to give them an
Speaker:alternative solution.
Speaker:Okay, let's say I don't like
Speaker:walking. I hate walking.
Speaker:Okay. So what do you like
Speaker:doing? You know, do you like yoga?
Speaker:Do you like swimming?
Speaker:Do you love, like,
Speaker:going on your bike?
Speaker:You know, but you know, you
Speaker:need to choose one thing that you
Speaker:enjoy. I think that's really
Speaker:important. You like dancing,
Speaker:whatever it is.
Speaker:But bottom line is, what are
Speaker:you going to do?
Speaker:Hmm.
Speaker:To exercise your body.
Speaker:You know, and I think it's, you
Speaker:know, the person can come up with
Speaker:their own, you know, plan that that
Speaker:makes them feel happier.
Speaker:That's fine.
Speaker:But if they if the answer is
Speaker:always I can't because I
Speaker:can't because I will hold
Speaker:their hand as much as I can.
Speaker:But it does get to a point that you
Speaker:need to say, okay, so do
Speaker:remember why we got together.
Speaker:What are your goals?
Speaker:Okay. Well, my goal with is to,
Speaker:you know, get my energy levels upon.
Speaker:My goal with is to heal myself from,
Speaker:you know, anxiety or from acid
Speaker:reflux or from my constipation
Speaker:issues or from, you know, I
Speaker:want to finish cancer treatment
Speaker:feeling stronger like you did.
Speaker:Okay. So if that is
Speaker:your goal, what are
Speaker:you prepared to do every single
Speaker:day to get you there?
Speaker:Because by doing nothing, you're
Speaker:not going to get that.
Speaker:And I think because I lived through
Speaker:it, if people, especially if people
Speaker:have gone through the cancer
Speaker:treatment, a cancer journey, people
Speaker:will say to me, like, I'm really
Speaker:tired. And I'll be like, Yeah, I
Speaker:know, I've been there.
Speaker:I have been there.
Speaker:I know. It's exhausting.
Speaker:It's not fun.
Speaker:It's not great.
Speaker:It's not ideal.
Speaker:But I'm telling you, if you do
Speaker:it now, if you push through it now,
Speaker:the results are going to be amazing.
Speaker:You are not going to believe how
Speaker:much your body is going to give back
Speaker:to you.
Speaker:So it's taking them on this journey
Speaker:of, you know.
Speaker:I think it's really important to
Speaker:reconnect them to their "why"?
Speaker:Yes.
Speaker:A lot of people, for example,
Speaker:you know, these days they want to
Speaker:lose weight.
Speaker:I know they want to lose weight and
Speaker:they want to lose weight fast
Speaker:because they want to see themselves
Speaker:in that bikini picture.
Speaker:That's it. That's all they have in
Speaker:their mind. And I just want to look
Speaker:sexy. I want to look beautiful.
Speaker:I want to look like this, you know,
Speaker:like this Instagram pictures or
Speaker:whatever.
Speaker:Okay. But that is not enough
Speaker:motivation to get you doing what
Speaker:you need to do, especially if you
Speaker:need to lose a lot of weight
Speaker:to get there.
Speaker:You need to have something different
Speaker:in that.
Speaker:You know, you're going to try for a
Speaker:week, you're going to try for two
Speaker:weeks, and then you're going to go
Speaker:back and doing the same things as
Speaker:you did before.
Speaker:And this is why weight loss is
Speaker:an industry that is worth
Speaker:trillions of dollars.
Speaker:Absolutely.
Speaker:Yeah. Everyone wants a quick fix.
Speaker:But at the end of the day, there's
Speaker:tools that can help us get
Speaker:started and make our
Speaker:journey easier.
Speaker:There's choices we can make from
Speaker:there, but no one else is going to
Speaker:do it. So I loved your latest
Speaker:newsletter. This really stood out
Speaker:for me because I thought, Bingo,
Speaker:there's so many people that feel
Speaker:this. I don't think there's anyone
Speaker:that won't have felt this.
Speaker:When someone says to you,
Speaker:Well, okay, you've come
Speaker:up and you're building on different
Speaker:habits, change your way because
Speaker:that's Joe Dispenser.
Speaker:And as everyone says, you know,
Speaker:you're not going to get different
Speaker:results if you don't start doing
Speaker:things differently.
Speaker:Yeah, it's literally that simple
Speaker:for me. It's like, you know, I have
Speaker:this every day.
Speaker:Angelica Well, yeah, if I want to do
Speaker:different, if I want to feel
Speaker:differently, if I want to have
Speaker:more energy, if I want to,
Speaker:whatever your goal might be,
Speaker:then I have to do something
Speaker:differently. Because if I keep doing
Speaker:the same thing, I'm going to keep
Speaker:getting the same results. So that
Speaker:realisation.
Speaker:It is literally that honest and that
Speaker:straightforward.
Speaker:But I notice someone asked you
Speaker:about, well, how
Speaker:do you not worry
Speaker:that you're going to slip back into
Speaker:your old habits?
Speaker:And most people do slip
Speaker:back. Yeah, old habits.
Speaker:And I said when
Speaker:you said, Well, I sat there and I
Speaker:thought, Do I want to feel exhausted
Speaker:again? Do I want to feel out of
Speaker:control? So talk us through
Speaker:when people because it's that nag,
Speaker:that voice. Again, everyone's
Speaker:thinking, but it's not going to
Speaker:last. I've tried it before.
Speaker:I've tried changing before.
Speaker:Hasn't worked.
Speaker:What's that switch?
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:So I'm going to talk about an
Speaker:emotional habit that I change.
Speaker:Actually, a couple
Speaker:that was really ingrained
Speaker:in my physical body, and it was
Speaker:my addiction to anger
Speaker:and my addiction to which
Speaker:which really, you know,
Speaker:became a deep resentment inside of
Speaker:me with everything.
Speaker:And my default mode
Speaker:to react towards anything that
Speaker:happened to my life.
Speaker:And my addiction to stress.
Speaker:And you know the addiction.
Speaker:Both of them came from
Speaker:observing my parents,
Speaker:dealing with things, because
Speaker:when I was about 15,
Speaker:my my dad had a business with his
Speaker:family and it didn't work
Speaker:out. And our lives became quite
Speaker:tormented in that period.
Speaker:And then I saw my dad just being
Speaker:very angry and very, you know,
Speaker:everything. It was a stress
Speaker:thing in my house was just
Speaker:horrendous, you know, And I, I kind
Speaker:of thought, this is how you deal
Speaker:with life. This is how you
Speaker:you know, like I say, you know, kids
Speaker:do what you do, not what you
Speaker:ask them to do.
Speaker:Right?
Speaker:And I created these and I manifested
Speaker:stressful jobs and our manifested,
Speaker:you know, opportunities in my life
Speaker:to be angry.
Speaker:And after I finished chemotherapy,
Speaker:feeling my physical body
Speaker:was in
Speaker:excellent shape
Speaker:for what I had gone through.
Speaker:I realised I need to now
Speaker:it start tapping into my
Speaker:mental and emotional habits because
Speaker:I can't get stressed like this
Speaker:anymore.
Speaker:You know, I can't keep being
Speaker:stressed all the time and worrying
Speaker:crazy. I can't do this anymore.
Speaker:I can't afford to doing that
Speaker:anymore. And I, for one stressful
Speaker:situation, it can shut down
Speaker:your immune system for 5
Speaker:hours.
Speaker:Yeah, for that.
Speaker:You know, it was it was it was real
Speaker:Like for me, it was like, this is a
Speaker:fact.
Speaker:So what am I going to do about it?
Speaker:And I started observing myself
Speaker:how I dealt with everything
Speaker:and becoming really self aware of,
Speaker:Wow, why do I get so angry about
Speaker:something that's got nothing to do
Speaker:with me?
Speaker:It's this is just it's
Speaker:very interesting.
Speaker:And, you know, and I started
Speaker:observing someone and I stopped
Speaker:being scared to
Speaker:sit with me.
Speaker:To sit with my feelings and with
Speaker:my, you know, the way that I was.
Speaker:I think a lot of it, we feel shame
Speaker:and we feel guilt, you know, why am
Speaker:I so crazy?
Speaker:Know, like, why why do I behave
Speaker:like this? Or, you know, I want to
Speaker:change, but I don't know how because
Speaker:you are in kind of this
Speaker:self-awareness stage
Speaker:and thinking like, how how do
Speaker:I move that to create a
Speaker:new habit.
Speaker:And I think what people don't
Speaker:realise is that.
Speaker:Every plate of food that
Speaker:you eat, every time
Speaker:you exercise, every meditation
Speaker:practice, you start building
Speaker:a different foundation,
Speaker:a different environment
Speaker:inside you at a
Speaker:physical level, at an
Speaker:energetic level in your cells.
Speaker:And at an emotional level.
Speaker:So that urge
Speaker:is starts getting less and less.
Speaker:Because if you think about it, a
Speaker:person who is eating constantly
Speaker:sugar, drinking alcohol
Speaker:and not, you know, not sleeping, not
Speaker:exercising, it doesn't take
Speaker:that much for that person to be
Speaker:stressed.
Speaker:It doesn't take much for that
Speaker:person to be angry.
Speaker:I was that person.
Speaker:But once I start looking after my
Speaker:terrain, my garden,
Speaker:it was even easier to become
Speaker:aware of the habit.
Speaker:And when it comes to an emotional
Speaker:habit, is just about becoming aware.
Speaker:Every time he pops, it pops up.
Speaker:Here I go. I'm angry again.
Speaker:This is it. I'm angry again.
Speaker:This is really interesting.
Speaker:There is no judgement.
Speaker:I'm just angry. That's okay.
Speaker:I'm not going to judge myself.
Speaker:I'm not going to kill myself over
Speaker:it. I am just angry again.
Speaker:I am just stressed.
Speaker:Why am I so stressed about this?
Speaker:What can I do in this situation?
Speaker:Or like were you you say I was
Speaker:like that always constantly
Speaker:worrying, constantly worrying until
Speaker:my life became so fragile
Speaker:that I couldn't even
Speaker:plan the next day, because the next
Speaker:day I could have been in emergency
Speaker:and in the hospital.
Speaker:So planning was just an illusion.
Speaker:So when life got me to
Speaker:facing that "do you want a plan?"
Speaker:Well I'm going to show you how
Speaker:you can plan.
Speaker:So tomorrow you're going to be you
Speaker:know, you're at emergency.
Speaker:You're like, why did I even worry
Speaker:about that. I didn't even know
Speaker:I was going to be here?
Speaker:And I really think... And I mean,
Speaker:this is perhaps another episode
Speaker:that we could do. We manifest things
Speaker:in our lives so we can go through
Speaker:our learning.
Speaker:And again, because I'm stubborn as
Speaker:hell, I manifested something
Speaker:that was pretty serious for me to
Speaker:see what I needed to do.
Speaker:So we do those things here
Speaker:so people don't have to go through
Speaker:those things, right?
Speaker:So people can just wake up before.
Speaker:Yeah. And it's a choice, isn't it?
Speaker:It's a choice. It's an energy
Speaker:choice. And I think
Speaker:recognising that about yourself
Speaker:is absolutely key because yes, you
Speaker:can have loved ones and friends
Speaker:and things that can help
Speaker:point things out to you.
Speaker:But until you accept it yourself
Speaker:and are honest with yourself
Speaker:about your patterns, someone once
Speaker:said to me a while
Speaker:ago, You know, my
Speaker:whole corporate career was on
Speaker:project planning, risk management,
Speaker:looking at things that could go
Speaker:wrong and mitigating those risks.
Speaker:And I was really, really good at it.
Speaker:And my father was really good at
Speaker:risk management type of things as
Speaker:well.
Speaker:And then someone said to me, "well,
Speaker:are you sure you're not an
Speaker:arsonist firefighter?" So i said
Speaker:what do you mean? And it's like, "do
Speaker:you subconsciously
Speaker:create or attract things
Speaker:in your life just so that you can
Speaker:continually reinforce how good you
Speaker:are at sorting those crises out?"
Speaker:and I was like...
Speaker:It was such an aha moment
Speaker:for me. It was, yeah.
Speaker:And it was said from a place
Speaker:of...
Speaker:I didn't even know this person so
Speaker:well, but they were so perceptive
Speaker:and they were saying it from a
Speaker:really helpful place and I could
Speaker:have chosen to argue against
Speaker:that or I could have like,
Speaker:Oh my God.
Speaker:And then when you realise it...
Speaker:And you can accept it, you can then
Speaker:decide to do something about it.
Speaker:And what you realise is I
Speaker:have realised I've created
Speaker:so much energy to be able to
Speaker:put into creating things I do want
Speaker:in my life, just by
Speaker:not using that same energy for
Speaker:worrying about things that I could
Speaker:have chosen to change at any time.
Speaker:Now, it might have taken quite a
Speaker:while to get there, and this is
Speaker:why I laugh during these conversations.
Speaker:As we've said the whole time, it's
Speaker:not a race. You will get there when
Speaker:you want to, but if you're even
Speaker:watching this today, if you're
Speaker:thinking about reaching out to work
Speaker:with any sort of coach,
Speaker:I would just say, listen to
Speaker:yourself. There's some part of you
Speaker:that's crying out for help.
Speaker:There's some part of you that wants
Speaker:to make a change and knows
Speaker:that things could be even better
Speaker:in your life.
Speaker:And that will have a knock on effect
Speaker:on loved ones.
Speaker:So talk me through Angelica for you.
Speaker:Because you've made such huge
Speaker:changes. So, Angelica
Speaker:is an expert at
Speaker:getting people to create
Speaker:new habits and most importantly,
Speaker:stick to them.
Speaker:What has been the
Speaker:reaction from people that have known
Speaker:you for a long while?
Speaker:Like loved ones, family members,
Speaker:friends, etc.?
Speaker:Really interesting.
Speaker:When I decided to go plantbased
Speaker:which was one of the first
Speaker:kind of changes that I made after
Speaker:reading, you know, about nutrition
Speaker:and what I needed to do in
Speaker:my journey.
Speaker:Nobody thought it was a good idea.
Speaker:My family, not my husband
Speaker:or my kids, but like extended
Speaker:family, they were like, you can't,
Speaker:you've got to eat meat.
Speaker:And I'm like, No, I'm not.
Speaker:You know, that's it.
Speaker:You know, like, I am very
Speaker:I have been very independent,
Speaker:you know, from my family and from,
Speaker:you know, my husband's family.
Speaker:They know how strong minded I
Speaker:am.
Speaker:And I kind of, you
Speaker:know, this is it.
Speaker:This is my journey.
Speaker:You know, this is my body.
Speaker:I'm doing this.
Speaker:And I, you know, for me was very
Speaker:much I you know, for
Speaker:me, it was like life or death.
Speaker:I needed to make some drastic
Speaker:changes. And and there was nothing
Speaker:that was going to deviate me from
Speaker:that.
Speaker:I think it gets tricky.
Speaker:Like we live here in Australia and
Speaker:we don't have family here, so it's
Speaker:easy for us.
Speaker:But you know, there was a lot of
Speaker:talks all the time. Are you still
Speaker:not going to eat meat? Are you not
Speaker:going to drink milk?
Speaker:Not going to eat cheese.
Speaker:They not going to, you know, like
Speaker:you, you know, is really good for,
Speaker:you know, not going to eat pasta?
Speaker:It's like, no.
Speaker:You know, that kind of stuff.
Speaker:And it's like for me, it's like they
Speaker:don't know, you know, and after
Speaker:seeing me because of course, they
Speaker:hadn't seen me
Speaker:you know, until after the the
Speaker:treatment and how well
Speaker:we all look to me, my husband
Speaker:and my kids, everybody was like,
Speaker:wow, Like, this is incredible.
Speaker:Like, this is just
Speaker:the proof is in the pudding.
Speaker:I mean, you guys are thriving
Speaker:like I can see that.
Speaker:And I would say a few family members
Speaker:have taken on board some
Speaker:of our changes for sure,
Speaker:but not everybody.
Speaker:And again, I think that, you know,
Speaker:I have a lot of clients that said,
Speaker:they say to me, my husband is never
Speaker:going to do that.
Speaker:You know, my kids are never going to
Speaker:do that.
Speaker:You know, again, I think it's
Speaker:important not to worry about
Speaker:that and just to focus
Speaker:on you and stay in your lane.
Speaker:If that's the case.
Speaker:Like I was really lucky that my
Speaker:husband was like, okay, fine,
Speaker:I get it. And I can explain to him
Speaker:what happened, you know,
Speaker:he reaped the benefits because he's
Speaker:in the best shape of his life and
Speaker:he's going to be 50.
Speaker:My kids.
Speaker:It was a little struggle at the
Speaker:beginning. They didn't want to
Speaker:change. You know, I kind of,
Speaker:you know, kind of kept being
Speaker:persistent. Again, sometimes I would
Speaker:go to the same meal seven times
Speaker:before my daughter would say, oh,
Speaker:yeah, I really like that.
Speaker:Tastebuds take a while to change,
Speaker:don't they? Because... a different
Speaker:conversation, but the microbiome,
Speaker:if you're feeding it the wrong
Speaker:stuff, then your mouth
Speaker:and taste buds and everything will
Speaker:crave the wrong stuff.
Speaker:Because I say it's like there's
Speaker:little bad gremlins in your mouth at
Speaker:saying, Give me sugar, give me
Speaker:sugar, give me sugar.
Speaker:So, you know, this why.
Speaker:I know, I know.
Speaker:Exactly.
Speaker:It's amazing to see how your
Speaker:tastes change when you tip
Speaker:over that threshold of consistency,
Speaker:isn't it?
Speaker:Yeah. I mean, sometimes I eat an
Speaker:apple and I'm like, Oh my God,
Speaker:they've added sugar to this apple.
Speaker:This is just too sweet for me
Speaker:because I don't need any more
Speaker:refined sugar now.
Speaker:But it is a gradual process.
Speaker:And I think it's it's important
Speaker:to always reconnect
Speaker:to your way because it's not.
Speaker:And nobody wants to change,
Speaker:right? Like change is
Speaker:like it is challenging.
Speaker:We all like comfort and,
Speaker:you know, and doing the same things.
Speaker:But when you look at it and you have
Speaker:a really good audit of your life,
Speaker:you have to ask
Speaker:herself... Do I actually feel
Speaker:great? Do I jump out of bed feeling,
Speaker:you know, full of energy and happy
Speaker:and excited about the day?
Speaker:You know, people think like, oh,
Speaker:that's an illusion.
Speaker:It's not.
Speaker:It's not an illusion.
Speaker:An illusion is leaving in exhaustion
Speaker:and thinking this is the only way.
Speaker:Now, I'm not sitting here and
Speaker:saying, I don't have any problems.
Speaker:I don't have any stress, I don't
Speaker:work on anything else and I'm
Speaker:perfect.
Speaker:But I have committed to show
Speaker:up to myself every single
Speaker:day.
Speaker:So went back to that question, which
Speaker:I actually didn't finish.
Speaker:When people say to me like, you
Speaker:know, it's okay to go back to your
Speaker:old self, it's impossible.
Speaker:I've created a different pattern.
Speaker:Yeah, it's literally
Speaker:impossible.
Speaker:My body doesn't know how to
Speaker:be angry anymore like
Speaker:I was before.
Speaker:My body doesn't know how to
Speaker:be stressed all the time
Speaker:like I was before.
Speaker:You start creating different
Speaker:patterns, which is the work that Dr.
Speaker:Joe Dispensa talks about
Speaker:by sitting in meditation and
Speaker:by kind of
Speaker:how does he say, like taking
Speaker:the reins of the bull you know, like
Speaker:just every time you know, that your
Speaker:mind wanders, you bring it back.
Speaker:Your mind wanders, You bring it back
Speaker:the same thing. You know I'm
Speaker:angry. Yeah, I'm angry.
Speaker:Okay, well, now it's time
Speaker:to go for a walk,
Speaker:you know, and just have an intention
Speaker:to let this go, you know?
Speaker:And the more you start doing those
Speaker:things, the more you start creating
Speaker:different patterns inside your body,
Speaker:different energy in your cells,
Speaker:and you'll become a different
Speaker:person.
Speaker:I love it. I absolutely love
Speaker:it. So I can't wait to see the
Speaker:questions we've got from this.
Speaker:So I just want to I
Speaker:know we've been going for a while,
Speaker:but a couple more things that I
Speaker:really want to sort of cover.
Speaker:First and foremost, perception.
Speaker:So you covered something
Speaker:really, really important there that
Speaker:I just want to bring out a bit more
Speaker:for people.
Speaker:People don't realise
Speaker:how good things can be.
Speaker:Because these changes creep
Speaker:up gradually on ourselves.
Speaker:The weight, the lack of energy,
Speaker:that not having time to
Speaker:cook etc.
Speaker:And most people
Speaker:watching us, not all, I know all of
Speaker:our situations are unique,
Speaker:but a lot of people
Speaker:are lucky enough to have a lot of
Speaker:choices. You know, anyone that can
Speaker:go to a supermarket and has a choice
Speaker:of food, that's a real luxury
Speaker:that many people in the world
Speaker:have.
Speaker:So convenience
Speaker:can be such a killer of
Speaker:dreams.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:So recognising
Speaker:that we have these choices
Speaker:and recognising that almost...
Speaker:I sort of say going back to
Speaker:the more simple way of things, I
Speaker:feel really, really lucky.
Speaker:So I can have my washing machine
Speaker:and my tumble dryer.
Speaker:And I... I actually try not
Speaker:to use supermarkets for
Speaker:other reasons, for ethical reasons.
Speaker:But actually going back to
Speaker:when I grew up,
Speaker:my mother didn't have big
Speaker:supermarkets, you had to
Speaker:go to the greengrocers for your
Speaker:fruit and veg and you went to the
Speaker:butchers for your meat.
Speaker:You know, it was a full day's job
Speaker:going and getting the supplies in.
Speaker:Every day food was cooked
Speaker:from scratch because we didn't have
Speaker:convenient meals.
Speaker:You know, you didn't have ready made
Speaker:meals. Yeah.
Speaker:So it's lovely.
Speaker:We've got that choice and we don't
Speaker:have to be perfect all the time.
Speaker:But realising the joy
Speaker:in going back to those basic
Speaker:life skills I
Speaker:think can be transformational.
Speaker:I'm now lucky enough I'm in a state
Speaker:where I work from home most of the
Speaker:time, so a vegetable
Speaker:garden going again.
Speaker:I've got into sprouting, I've
Speaker:got into all sorts of
Speaker:things that I've wanted to do.
Speaker:So that joy of going
Speaker:back to the basics in life can be
Speaker:so great to reconnect with, do you
Speaker:think?
Speaker:I think
Speaker:gratitude is everything.
Speaker:I, at the beginning of my journey,
Speaker:you know, I started,
Speaker:I made a shift.
Speaker:I would say I was quite a negative
Speaker:person because of everything that I
Speaker:had gone through, especially with my
Speaker:family, because my dad and my mom
Speaker:and everybody became very negative
Speaker:because our lives became hell
Speaker:overnight.
Speaker:But as soon
Speaker:as I was ready to conquer
Speaker:the cancer and that whole journey,
Speaker:I started being grateful for
Speaker:being in Australia in a first world
Speaker:country where I had the best service
Speaker:ever.
Speaker:You know, being grateful for having
Speaker:a poo after chemotherapy and being
Speaker:constipated.
Speaker:Being grateful for having had the
Speaker:best surgeon, you know, to
Speaker:have done my emergency surgery.
Speaker:Being grateful for having a plate of
Speaker:food and was healing, you know, with
Speaker:every mouthful.
Speaker:So and I think that.
Speaker:Bottom line is when you talk about
Speaker:convenience is that
Speaker:people don't prioritise their
Speaker:health. And that's the bottom line.
Speaker:Yeah. What people
Speaker:are doing with their time is they,
Speaker:they're spending on social media.
Speaker:They are spending on going
Speaker:to get a take away or whatever.
Speaker:If anything,
Speaker:I think social media is actually
Speaker:a killer of a lot of things
Speaker:because people are just scrolling
Speaker:and not educating
Speaker:themselves and applying anything to
Speaker:their lives and wasting their time.
Speaker:And when it gets down to time
Speaker:management,
Speaker:when something is important to you,
Speaker:like your social media scrolling,
Speaker:you'll make time for it.
Speaker:Absolutely.
Speaker:You know, when it's not,
Speaker:you know, it's really like thinking,
Speaker:you know, before I would be the
Speaker:first to say, oh, health is the most
Speaker:important thing, but I didn't live
Speaker:by that.
Speaker:I didn't display those
Speaker:actions every single day.
Speaker:You know, it is about thinking
Speaker:that, you know, is health really
Speaker:important to me?
Speaker:Why?
Speaker:I sat at the reception waiting
Speaker:for my chemotherapy treatment
Speaker:with people that were at least 20
Speaker:years older than me. I was by far
Speaker:the youngest.
Speaker:They would look at me thinking like,
Speaker:What are you doing here?
Speaker:You know, if I didn't have a PICC
Speaker:line, they would probably think I
Speaker:was with somebody and
Speaker:I had a
Speaker:real conversation with myself.
Speaker:Do I want to end up here again?
Speaker:Is that how I want to grow
Speaker:old?
Speaker:I mean, some people from one week
Speaker:to another, they'll come in like
Speaker:half dead
Speaker:and I'll be- I don't want to I don't
Speaker:want to come to this place anymore.
Speaker:I'm going to do everything I can
Speaker:every single day.
Speaker:So I never depend
Speaker:on doctors that I don't depend
Speaker:on medication. I was dependent
Speaker:on them.
Speaker:And, you know.
Speaker:Is that a guarantee?
Speaker:No, it's not.
Speaker:What is the...
Speaker:What is the other choice?
Speaker:Keep doing what I was doing.
Speaker:Going back to drinking
Speaker:alcohol, eating crap food,
Speaker:and being stressed out and angry and
Speaker:unhappy.
Speaker:I don't want to go back there.
Speaker:So until people are ready to have
Speaker:a hard conversation with themselves,
Speaker:you know, change is it's impossible
Speaker:to make. But once you are ready
Speaker:to to really have a serious
Speaker:conversation with yourself.
Speaker:In a little while, you know, you
Speaker:start creating a different version
Speaker:of yourself, a different body, a
Speaker:different mind.
Speaker:I have a belief that
Speaker:anything is possible.
Speaker:When you set your mind to.
Speaker:Anything is possible when
Speaker:that does not mean you're going to
Speaker:be sitting in the sofa eating cakes.
Speaker:I'm sorry.
Speaker:You know, that means you're going to
Speaker:have to do stuff.
Speaker:You know, and I think it's it's a
Speaker:choice, you know. Do you want to be
Speaker:ready?
Speaker:You know, do you actually want to do
Speaker:things or not?
Speaker:Or do you want to stay where you
Speaker:are? And for me, another
Speaker:important part, what motivated
Speaker:me, especially at the beginning, and
Speaker:I would always say this, is that
Speaker:I couldn't do it for me.
Speaker:I did it for my children because
Speaker:they were six and four.
Speaker:And the thought of them growing
Speaker:up without a Mum,
Speaker:I just couldn't bear it.
Speaker:So that got me motivated.
Speaker:So this whole idea that a bikini
Speaker:picture is going to motivate you,
Speaker:you forget about it, it's not.
Speaker:You need to have a deeper "why"
Speaker:if you want to get out of bed every
Speaker:day and control that inner
Speaker:voice and, you know, get out when
Speaker:it's dark and cold,
Speaker:you know, when you haven't
Speaker:done for years, when you want
Speaker:and lose the weight, it's not going
Speaker:to be easy.
Speaker:But is it impossible?
Speaker:No, it's not.
Speaker:And are the rewards worth it?
Speaker:Absolutely.
Speaker:And can anybody do it for you
Speaker:know, like I knew that
Speaker:the oncologists were doing the best
Speaker:they could, you know, the
Speaker:gastroenterologist were doing
Speaker:their job. But it was my job
Speaker:to take control.
Speaker:And it's everybody's job to take
Speaker:control of their health.
Speaker:There are things that only each
Speaker:of us can do.
Speaker:And that goes beyond taking
Speaker:supplements right, as you know,
Speaker:supplements sitting
Speaker:here.
Speaker:But the things that you need
Speaker:to do physically, mentally and
Speaker:emotionally, it sits with you.
Speaker:Yeah. Supplements are not
Speaker:an excuse for living an unhealthy
Speaker:a lifestyle.
Speaker:They are a brilliant enabler
Speaker:to one of your habits that you're
Speaker:going to look through, whether you
Speaker:do it on your own with your coach.
Speaker:Can I go back to the eating cake on
Speaker:the sofa? So for me, the biggest
Speaker:perception and I've seen this, my
Speaker:daughter has got a massive "why"
Speaker:and she is so brilliant
Speaker:at sticking to her habits.
Speaker:She's understood what she needs to
Speaker:do to make the changes to achieve
Speaker:what she wants. And she is an
Speaker:absolute inspiration.
Speaker:I mean, I'm blown away by how good
Speaker:she is.
Speaker:But what I wanted to say to people,
Speaker:I really want your opinion on this
Speaker:is the difference is this is
Speaker:and please correct me if I'm wrong.
Speaker:You're not sitting there thinking,
Speaker:oh, my God, I'm missing out,
Speaker:sitting on the sofa eating cake
Speaker:with my glass of wine because you
Speaker:don't want to do it anymore.
Speaker:It like when you said
Speaker:it's impossible for you to go
Speaker:back to the old way when you make
Speaker:these changes.
Speaker:It's not that you're sitting there
Speaker:each day feeling that you're
Speaker:making a sacrifice.
Speaker:You you don't ever want to
Speaker:make that choice again.
Speaker:Talk me through how that works for
Speaker:you.
Speaker:So
Speaker:I drank for 16 years
Speaker:and, you know,
Speaker:and I never stopped drinking alcohol
Speaker:after the kids, you know, like I
Speaker:kept drinking two units
Speaker:every Thursday, Friday, Saturday and
Speaker:Sunday before, you know, you're
Speaker:drinking every day.
Speaker:And you know, how goes sugar is the
Speaker:same thing. You know, everybody,
Speaker:you know, brings cakes to work and
Speaker:you eat in bed. Oh, yeah, I'm not
Speaker:addicted to sugar, but there's sugar
Speaker:in everything.
Speaker:Now, once
Speaker:you start understanding,
Speaker:the, you know, the scientific
Speaker:whatever they want to call, the
Speaker:knowledge behind why you're doing
Speaker:that. And for me, that is
Speaker:also important.
Speaker:You know, it takes 3 hours
Speaker:to to detox from one unit
Speaker:of alcohol. And I'm like, you
Speaker:know, I binge drink for 16 years.
Speaker:You know, my liver is probably still
Speaker:doing that.
Speaker:You know, like, I
Speaker:don't... I can't imagine
Speaker:going back to any of it.
Speaker:Like,
Speaker:if I see things that are,
Speaker:you know, cakes
Speaker:and chocolate,
Speaker:I would eat dark chocolate, but I
Speaker:wouldn't eat any milk chocolate
Speaker:anymore. I mean, I am a strict
Speaker:because I have to be strict because
Speaker:I have gone through what I have gone
Speaker:through. Right.
Speaker:And I want to put this out that as
Speaker:well. But I do think that
Speaker:the whole like I only do a little
Speaker:bit this
Speaker:day to have to be so cautious about
Speaker:what you do because it's
Speaker:sugar, alcohol,
Speaker:convenience is everywhere.
Speaker:So once you start getting to
Speaker:a new, creating
Speaker:a new normal inside your body.
Speaker:If we have one, take away
Speaker:a week and that would have
Speaker:to be to restaurants that I
Speaker:know where its from and all the rest
Speaker:of it. You know, I feel it in my
Speaker:body and I don't want to have any
Speaker:more than that.
Speaker:If I go to a place where,
Speaker:you know, there is nothing
Speaker:for me to eat, I will just look for
Speaker:the absolutely the healthiest
Speaker:thing. I mean, I'll get out of my
Speaker:way. I'm not doing that because,
Speaker:you know, out is not a chore.
Speaker:It is a habit now.
Speaker:It is my habit.
Speaker:I don't even think about it.
Speaker:I just do it.
Speaker:My kids do it.
Speaker:My husband does it.
Speaker:It's not... We don't even think
Speaker:about it.
Speaker:My kids would say to me, Mommy, I
Speaker:read too much sugar, I don't want
Speaker:this anymore.
Speaker:If they go to a party.
Speaker:They will tell me, Mom, you've
Speaker:eaten, what?
Speaker:We went to the restaurant.
Speaker:If you go to the restaurant
Speaker:and you bring
Speaker:the leftovers home and you eat for
Speaker:lunch, they'll be like, Oh, can we
Speaker:have something at home today?
Speaker:Because, you know, eating twice is
Speaker:just too much.
Speaker:So it's but
Speaker:it's unconscious now.
Speaker:It's unconscious.
Speaker:It's not even conscious anymore for
Speaker:me.
Speaker:Yeah. That's why I wanted to do
Speaker:really people realise is it's not...
Speaker:what we're talking about it
Speaker:you're not going to then spend the
Speaker:whole rest of your life feeling that
Speaker:you're missing out.
Speaker:It's absolutely completely
Speaker:the opposite.
Speaker:Because there will be a
Speaker:point when your body
Speaker:makes that switch-over
Speaker:where they really...
Speaker:You're not craving those choices
Speaker:anymore.
Speaker:And you know, this is the joy
Speaker:is it's not...
Speaker:It's very hard when people start
Speaker:down the journey, you think,
Speaker:Angelica, for it not to feel like
Speaker:an overwhelming mountain to climb,
Speaker:which is why we keep coming back.
Speaker:Start small.
Speaker:Work with someone to get some
Speaker:support. Yeah. And if you if you
Speaker:can't afford to coach, there's so
Speaker:much good online resources that you
Speaker:can look at with books that you
Speaker:can get, etc..
Speaker:So there's there's something out
Speaker:there for everyone, but don't
Speaker:feel...
Speaker:The rewards so outweigh
Speaker:the benefit.
Speaker:And taking that first
Speaker:step to changing
Speaker:is literally like taking the first
Speaker:step to recreating your new life.
Speaker:I totally agree.
Speaker:And I think it's I am
Speaker:I think that's a big misconception.
Speaker:People thinking that we're here
Speaker:suffering.
Speaker:You know, like if you
Speaker:ask me, I haven't
Speaker:had like a soda.
Speaker:There is things that I would never
Speaker:have never had after my cancer
Speaker:treatment. No, I would never have a
Speaker:McDonald's. Like, I would never have
Speaker:that. Not even like, I would rather
Speaker:go hungry.
Speaker:You know, there are things that we
Speaker:don't have.
Speaker:But for me, like the
Speaker:idea of it,
Speaker:it is it's it's actually quite
Speaker:scary. I'm like, I just, you know, I
Speaker:couldn't even face this in the same
Speaker:way as maybe people think about,
Speaker:you know, healthy food like that.
Speaker:I think about unhealthy food like
Speaker:that. Like, why would I even do
Speaker:this? You know, like, this is this
Speaker:is crazy. You know?
Speaker:And and I think you mentioned
Speaker:briefly about this supermarket.
Speaker:I didn't go to the supermarket for
Speaker:three months when I kind of
Speaker:self-quarantined during treatment.
Speaker:And I remember the first day I went
Speaker:to the supermarket, I had made
Speaker:so many changes already.
Speaker:My husband would go and get all the
Speaker:veggies and we would be cooking at
Speaker:home.
Speaker:And it was so overwhelming
Speaker:that experience of going to the
Speaker:supermarket for the first time, you
Speaker:know, it was like if I had never
Speaker:been to one.
Speaker:And I looked around and I stopped
Speaker:going through the aisles because
Speaker:you've got the veggies and fruit.
Speaker:And I was like, Oh, my God.
Speaker:Sugar, sugar, sugar, sugar.
Speaker:Processed, process, processed.
Speaker:And I was just like, whoa.
Speaker:And I actually felt a deep
Speaker:compassion for everybody
Speaker:that is trying to be healthy,
Speaker:because I thought to myself, how can
Speaker:somebody who
Speaker:has got no idea, was confused,
Speaker:who is trying to lose weight,
Speaker:trying to get control of their
Speaker:health come out of this place
Speaker:with a healthy trolley?
Speaker:Absolutely.
Speaker:It is virtually impossible.
Speaker:It's impossible.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Yeah. And. And this is a thing.
Speaker:Yeah. I think you said so many
Speaker:times in this interview, and I'm so
Speaker:grateful that you have that
Speaker:this is not about beating yourself
Speaker:up. It's not about judging yourself.
Speaker:There's a huge difference
Speaker:between.
Speaker:Understanding
Speaker:where you're at and criticising
Speaker:yourself for it.
Speaker:It's so easy, it's virtually
Speaker:impossible. I'm very lucky.
Speaker:We live in a little village,
Speaker:quite a long way from the other
Speaker:towns, so I have no temptation
Speaker:to get takeaways most of the time.
Speaker:I'm not saying we never have one.
Speaker:If we have one, we've got to get in
Speaker:the car, drive 20, 25 minutes.
Speaker:Yeah, by the time you get back,
Speaker:it's cold. You know, we don't have
Speaker:any of that delivered to us.
Speaker:It's such a blessing.
Speaker:While, if I lived in a middle of a
Speaker:town, a city, or something,
Speaker:obviously I've got way,
Speaker:more temptations to me.
Speaker:So don't beat yourself up about
Speaker:this, but please don't feel
Speaker:that this is a hardship,
Speaker:a suffering it is literally-
Speaker:the biggest thing I want to leave
Speaker:people with. It's the complete
Speaker:opposite.
Speaker:I've got loads of habits.
Speaker:So I'm going to be speaking to
Speaker:Angelica about, you know,
Speaker:working with her. Because this is
Speaker:the thing is once you start
Speaker:and then you multiply when you have
Speaker:it, then you're ready to take on the
Speaker:next one. And some people can take
Speaker:more than one at once and other
Speaker:people can't.
Speaker:So it's a very individual journey,
Speaker:but just starting somewhere.
Speaker:So if we had to wrap up today,
Speaker:if people were sitting there
Speaker:thinking right, okay,
Speaker:I've got to first of all realise
Speaker:what my habits are.
Speaker:And secondly, start.
Speaker:You start. We've been really clear
Speaker:about 5 minutes in
Speaker:the morning for your physical body
Speaker:and quieting your mind.
Speaker:What other things do you
Speaker:want people to walk away from-
Speaker:summaries from this interview?
Speaker:What are your must haves that you
Speaker:really want people to remember?
Speaker:So sleep.
Speaker:Definitely don't compromise on
Speaker:sleep. Going to bed 15 minutes earlier.
Speaker:If
Speaker:you are going to wake up
Speaker:15 minutes earlier.
Speaker:You know, I run to my bed at 9:00
Speaker:and I wake up at five.
Speaker:So I have 8 hours.
Speaker:I literally run to my bed.
Speaker:I say to my husband, do you have
Speaker:anything else to say?
Speaker:Because I'm going to bed.
Speaker:That's it.
Speaker:So.
Speaker:Unless the house is on fire, I am
Speaker:rushing to bed.
Speaker:And and I think that,
Speaker:you know, if people are going to
Speaker:change their diet, change
Speaker:one thing at a time, so change their
Speaker:whole breakfast.
Speaker:Yeah. You know, that's a fact.
Speaker:And then and then after two weeks,
Speaker:you know, change their lunches.
Speaker:After two weeks, they start
Speaker:introducing the dinners is a bit
Speaker:harder because you have to
Speaker:incorporate the whole family, right?
Speaker:I actually do have a course which
Speaker:is called Change Your Habits, Change
Speaker:Your Life. It's 147 USD.
Speaker:You can find the link below if
Speaker:people want to get it, which takes
Speaker:people by the hand on those simple
Speaker:habits that they can implement with
Speaker:how to change the breakfast and
Speaker:lunch as well. But I
Speaker:think, like I said, it's so
Speaker:important to stop taking all
Speaker:of these advice like, Oh, this
Speaker:is too hard.
Speaker:Start where you are at
Speaker:the start with small steps
Speaker:and once you start getting the
Speaker:momentum, don't go and jump again.
Speaker:The consistency is more
Speaker:important
Speaker:than how many minutes
Speaker:you exercising and how many minutes
Speaker:you are meditating.
Speaker:You know, when you feel when you
Speaker:actually feel like this is actually
Speaker:part of who I am, then you move to
Speaker:the next habit.
Speaker:Love it.
Speaker:You know, because everybody's
Speaker:busy, everybody's got a lot
Speaker:on. So and I think
Speaker:when you start your day like this,
Speaker:the most important thing is that
Speaker:you're choosing you.
Speaker:As a mom and, you know, you know
Speaker:that like, it's so hard for us
Speaker:to choose ourselves.
Speaker:And as a parent, you know,
Speaker:we feel, you know, if you've got
Speaker:family members or or animals
Speaker:to look after.
Speaker:You know, I've had clients say I've
Speaker:got to feed my dogs first, ok, so
Speaker:you know. Okay, so how do we
Speaker:incorporate that to choosing
Speaker:you?
Speaker:Because once you fill your cup every
Speaker:morning, every day.
Speaker:You are not kind of getting your
Speaker:bank balance from the negative every
Speaker:day, which is what most people are
Speaker:doing.
Speaker:I love it. And for those of you with
Speaker:animals.
Speaker:One of the biggest joys can be
Speaker:watching them return back to health.
Speaker:And that's what I specialise in, is
Speaker:working with people to change the
Speaker:habits, the the diet plans
Speaker:the exercise that's sort
Speaker:of... It's just as important for
Speaker:animals as Coco will testify
Speaker:here lying on my desk.
Speaker:Let us know your questions below.
Speaker:Or if you're listening to this on
Speaker:the podcast, feel free to email me
Speaker:and we can answer them next time.
Speaker:I'm going to be putting all
Speaker:Angelica's links below about
Speaker:how you can connect with her.
Speaker:Please sign up to her newsletter.
Speaker:It is brilliant.
Speaker:And also about the change your
Speaker:habits change your life course that
Speaker:she offers as well.
Speaker:And what I would say is
Speaker:there's never a better time
Speaker:than right now.
Speaker:Exactly.
Speaker:That's it. That's it.
Speaker:Yeah.
Speaker:Just start where you are and start
Speaker:now with what you have.
Speaker:Love it.
Speaker:Thank you so much, Angelica.
Speaker:I love these conversations so much.
Speaker:I learned so much.
Speaker:I found it so, so useful.
Speaker:We really appreciate your honesty
Speaker:in sharing your journey.
Speaker:It's just so wonderful to see,
Speaker:and I'm sure we will be back again
Speaker:soon.
Speaker:Thank you. Thank you so much.
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